Humans are diverse, not only in our biology but also in psychology and social behaviors. One of the areas where our diversity is quite apparent is in our sexual habits. While some individuals enjoy having sex and want to do so at the smallest opportunity, others are indifferent about it. There are also others who display a strong aversion towards it.
Various cultures all over the world have different opinions about sexual desire in different people and the possible factors that can be responsible for differences in sexual desires. Since how well a couple of matches depends to a large extent on how much they match themselves sexually, the subject of libido is discussed in quite a number of ancient literature including Cheikh Nefzaoui’s “The Perfumed Garden.”
Size of sexual organs and sexual compatibility
One of the most common debates about sex is whether the size of the genitals really matters. While many are of the opinion that the bigger the better, a lot of people say that it isn’t about how big, but how well it’s used. It seems the ancient Arabs had no strict opinion about this.
While a large-sized penis is one of the main factors that determine whether women will find a man desirable or not in ancient Arabian societies, it seems the most important factor for the Arabs as far as this issue is concerned is compatibility of the parties involved rather than just the size.
For example, a woman with a plump form and a shallow uterus will be better matched with a man that has a short and thick penis. This type of penis will completely fill the vagina without touching the end of it. Of course, such a woman will find sex with a man that has a long and large penis uncomfortable. The opposite is true for a woman with a long and deep vulva as she is more likely to prefer a man with a long and thick penis.
The ancient Arabs also believed that a person’s stature has an effect on their libido. Generally, women with a small stature are believed to have a higher libido and enjoy having sex more than women with a big stature although the reason for this isn’t explicitly stated. A woman’s libido is also believed to be connected to the shape and configuration of her vagina.
In fact, the Ancient Arabs believe that two specific types of vaginas are found in women who show higher libido. These include what is called “the square one” or “el murteba” in Arabic and “projecting one” or “el more.” These terms described vaginas of women that project out of her body. Such a vagina has a narrow slit and is always eager for intercourse. Of course, it is true that different women show varying sex drive based on different factors. However, there is really no scientific proof that the shape of the vagina has a lot to do with it.
How temperaments affect sexual desire
According to Cheikh Nefzaoui’s “The Perfumed Garden,” there are basically five temperaments that can be observed in Arab women. Women with these temperaments act in different ways and it also affects their libido or sexual desire. Generally, the five basic temperaments identified include:
- The bilious
- The Melancholy
- Mixed temperaments
It is believed that women with melancholic and bilious temperaments do not like to have sex often and they prefer men who have the same disposition towards sex as well. On the other side of the spectrum, we have the sanguine and phlegmatic women. They have a high libido. They enjoy having sex, almost to excess and only men of the same temperament will be able to satisfy them to the fullest.
For women with mixed temperaments, they do not show a remarkable desire for sex but at the same time, they also show no aversion for it as well. For such category of people, they are not bothered about being unable to have sex for a period of time neither are they overly concerned about sexual satisfaction.
Based on present-day scientific knowledge, we know that sex drive in both males and females is mainly psychologically-controlled. An interplay of brain activity and sex hormones play a huge role in human sex drive. However, these can also be influenced by other external factors as well. While the knowledge the ancient Arabs had about how sex drive works were mostly crude and incomplete, they at least got some things right.
There is indeed a connection between size and sexual satisfaction, although this isn’t entirely based on generalized standards. A man with a small-sized penis might still be able to satisfy a woman with a wider or deeper vagina depending on the sexual positions being practiced, skill experience among other factors
The ancient Arabs believed that there are women who show an aversion for sexual intercourse mainly because of their personal ambition, business and so on. We know for a fact that work and stress can indeed limit sex drive and reduce sexual desire and performance. The ancient Arabs also believe that a bad experience in the past can affect a person’s disposition towards sex and affect libido.
As far as sex is concerned some people have specific preferences, the book “The Perfumed Garden” stated two specific examples regarding this.
For example, some women enjoy having sex when they are treated roughly or beaten by their partner. While it is unlikely BDSM or related acts was widely practiced in ancient Arabian cultures, the mere fact that it was mentioned means there were some ancient Arab women who seemed to prefer rough sex. Also, the book makes reference to those women who prefer clitoral stimulation to penetrative sex.
There are quite a number of factors that determine how much a person wants to have sex and how much they enjoy the act. Asides individual differences, sex drive is mostly psychological and thus can be affected by various factors such as stress, drug use, depression, distractions, and so on.
Understanding libido and the factors that affect it will help lovers pay attention to abnormalities and seek treatments when necessary.