I Hate Condoms. Before I Start Putting One, My Penis Starts Getting Smaller. What Should I Do?
You hate condoms. We get it. They’re not anything we think that ANY sexually-active person is totally in love with. But if you want to keep from getting your partner pregnant, a condom is 98 percent effective if you use them perfectly and 85 percent effective if you don’t always put them on correctly, use spermicide, etc.
Not to mention that they are the best form of birth control when it comes to protecting you from getting an STD. So, even if you don’t want to wear them unless you’re in a long-term relationship and you both get tested every six months (and she’s using birth control to keep from getting pregnant), please do.
Now, as far as your feeling like your penis is getting smaller with a condom, what we assume you mean is that you lose your erection with a condom (or right before putting a condom on). Well, what you might be surprised to know is that has nothing to do with the condom and everything to do with what you think about it.
You’ve probably heard that your brain is the biggest sex organ you have; in many ways, it’s true. If you already don’t like condoms and then, on top of that, your partner stops foreplay while waiting for you to put one on, it can totally get you out of the mood. (Understandably so.)
How to Stay Hard with a Condom
The solution? Make condoms sexier. Extend the foreplay. Engage in more oral sex while putting one on. Make sure you’re using one that properly fits and intensifies your pleasure (some of the best condoms to keep you hard—and her stimulated—include Trojan Ultra Ribbed Lubricated Condoms, Durex Intense Sensations Condoms and SKYN Extra Studded Condoms). Stop thinking about how much you hate wearing condoms.
Sure, they might be a little inconvenient, but when you factor in that they are simplifying your life (by not making you a parent before you are ready) and also saving it (by keeping your STD-free), that should actually make you fall in love with ‘em (or at least really like them a lot)!