What the Heck Is a ‘Sleep Divorce’?
Unless you were living with your partner prior to saying “I do”, something that you definitely had to get used to after your wedding day was sharing a bedroom.
In some ways, doing that is very sweet. You get to cuddle together and, of course, sleeping together makes it so much easier to have sex, pretty much any time (throughout the night) that you feel like having it. That’s the good side of the coin.
However, sharing a bed can also introduce you to some things you might not have considered. Your partner’s snoring. Your partner’s drooling. Your partner’s farting. Or, if by some chance these aren’t issues (and congrats if that’s the case), maybe they wake up earlier than you do or like to watch television while you’re trying to catch some zzzs. Maybe you like the bedroom warm while they prefer to open up the windows, even during the winter season.
Geeze. After several months of these kinds of issues, it’s enough to not only make you suffer from major sleep-deprivation, it could also start to cause real issues in your relationship too.
For years, most married couples had two options—grin and bear it or get a divorce. But these days, more people are finding a non-conventional approach to it all. It’s called a “sleep divorce”.
What in the World Is a “Sleep Divorce”?
If you’re thinking to yourself, “What in the world is a sleep divorce?!”, in a nutshell, it’s when a couple makes the decision to sleep in separate beds. It’s not that they don’t love each other; it’s so they can get a decent night’s rest.
If you’ve never heard of this concept before, you might think that only a handful of people are down with doing such a thing. But that’s actually not the case at all. One survey revealed that as much as 31 percent of couples would like to try a sleep divorce for the sake of making their relationship easier.
The other interesting thing we discovered is out of the couples who’ve actually attempted this kind of “separation”, several of them said that not only did it help them to rest better and give them more energy in the morning, it also did wonders for their sex lives. Partly because they had the energy to do-the-thing, partly because it kept some of the “yuck mysteries” from getting in the way.
Hmmm. If you asked your grandparents what they thought about sleep divorces, they would probably say that sleeping in separate bedrooms means you weren’t ready for the responsibilities that come with marriage. But from where we sit, if doing this will keep from pissing you off, grossing you out or not having sex with one another, it’s at least worth giving a shot.
It’s ironic but true. Participating in a “sleep divorce” could be the very thing that prevents you from getting an actual divorce. Good luck!